Why I'm Cutting Back the Online Media {Coffee Break}

office desk with blank screen laptop computer I haven't written a Coffee Break since February! Wow! I think stress has been so high with the move and finalizing the adoption, I just felt like I couldn't exhale. Boy do I find it SO much easier to breathe these days! The whole reason I created the Coffee Breaks was so I could write without worrying about all the blogging rules. It seems my lack of writing Coffee Breaks has stifled my freedom and I was trapped again by the weight of being a blogger.

So, I'm working through reevaluating my time and purpose online. It's a tough balance sometimes, especially when you're listening to all the voices and they are drowning out God's.

The Weight of Blogging

You see, the message to bloggers by other {successful} bloggers is almost always about numbers..growing through numbers by doing a million different things. (And mind you, not all successful bloggers do this. But many do). And many successful bloggers have turned their blogging into a full time job. I am not capable of devoting that much time to blogging at this very busy season of my life.

But, in all this teaching, rarely have I found someone who has taught bloggers to grow in maturity, in any respect, and then teach or share with their readers how to do the same. Michael Hyatt and Jeff Goins would be the exceptions here. Michael teaches people how to be great leaders and Jeff teaches people how to be great writers. They both teach people how to develop and mature and sprinkle in posts about how they became successful bloggers.

However, the overall message is confusing because you have to have quality content to get the quantity of numbers. But how often is that quality authentic?

My goal here isn't to come down on bloggers and what they're teaching, but to examine, as a blogger, what it is I'm really gaining by listening to advice that focuses mainly on numbers. I need to decide if this information is truly relevant to me in this season of my life. For a blogger who is looking to turn their blog into a full time business, this information may prove very useful.

But for me? A full-time, homeschooling mom of seven who has a heart for mainly writing my thoughts out in case someone else can glean from them? I don't think being a slave to social media is in the cards for me. Social media is such a time sucker and over-saturated with information. I don't want to be part of the problem yet I do want to share things I find to be excellent in quality and helpful to others.

Quite honestly, it's exhausting to keep up with all the rules and requirements of bloggers to gain those numbers. And although it has never been my goal to focus on numbers, as a blogger, one is always susceptible to the temptation and sometimes even falls into it.

Sometimes it's hard not to fall into the trap of envying the successful blogger, but it has forced me to stop and think about what I'm really willing to sacrifice.

I don't want to sacrifice my message and authenticity. I don't want to sacrifice the trust I've gained from my readers. I don't want to sacrifice time with my family. And when I find myself growing frustrated with my children or my household duties because there are things I need want to do online, it's time to step back.

Online Media

I wrote on this not too long ago. But I think it requires revisiting, sometimes often, in order to get it to really sink in. And a few months ago I felt lost...I don't feel that today. In fact, I feel overwhelmingly fulfilled in my role because my family is together now. I am brimming with blessing and I want to soak it up, not be a slave to social media for the sake of my blog.

Going from five to seven children has definitely proved busier in our household --- and I wouldn't change it for anything. With that, I am required to view my time online. I will continue blogging, yes. But I need to learn to leave a lot of the other stuff behind.

Even pleasure browsing through Facebook has left me overstimulated. I find it hard to concentrate as well as turn my thoughts quiet. Our lives have become so busy with constant input, we don't even know how to rest anymore.

I read an amazing article yesterday over at Time-Warp Wife, written by Jennifer Ebenhack. It's called When Homemaking is a Hassle: 3 Reasons to Reevaluate "Mommy Media"

Jennifer did an excellent job putting into words what I've been feeling but simply failed to write. I encourage you to read it and see if your own media consumption needs some evaluation.

Coffee Break with Christin