Tween girls are at such a tender age, with all kinds of questions and emotions sort of swirling in their heads and hearts. Often, they won't talk about these things unless prompted [and somethings not even then] because they don't know how to bring them up, or they can feel ashamed of having certain struggles or questions.
I have two tween daughters, both adopted from Ghana, [as well as a teen biological daughter (14)] and some of their struggles are multiplied as they sort through [other] emotions they don't understand yet.
Christina is my 10-year old sweet girl who is hungry for affirmation with who she is. She longs to feel accepted and loved, especially by her family, and sometimes something small [to us] can trigger feelings of inadequacy or make her feel unloved.
Tweens don't need to be adopted to experience such feelings, though.
Many tween girls struggle just to believe they are not alone. Sometimes they have the belief they are the only ones who have *this* many chores or not enough free time or are always being told what to do.
I have a now 14-year old biological daughter who also went through such struggles.
As a mom, it can be easy for me to dismiss such feelings as ridiculous or dramatic because as an adult, I can see the bigger picture. But rather than telling my tween girl to "get over it" and "stop being so dramatic", I enter into her struggles through understanding and empathy.
I try to remember what it was like for me as a tween.
When I choose to enter in and dig a little deeper into some of the issues, I learn more about my girl and we build a deeper level of trust. Every time.
Pointing my tweens back to their identity in Christ helps them put roots into the ground. Rather than focusing on their circumstances, I point them to the Rock. To the One who understands and who has created them so unique and so beautiful.
And I do this with the help of a wonderful tool from Wynter Pitts called, "You're God's Girl! A Devotional for Tweens". This is Wynter's latest contribution for tween girls and as a mother of a tween, she nailed it. She hit upon all the most important and common struggles most Christian tween girls face and uses those questions to bring them deeper with Jesus.
Wynter helps to dig into the many questions tween girls have about themselves, about their faith, and about God; and she does it in a way that meets them where they're at.
Some devotional titles include:
- How Am I Supposed to Love Someone Who Is Mean to Me?
- Do I Have to Be Brave?
- What If God is Not Real?
- Does God Really Love Me...Always?
These are big questions for our tween girls -- and You're God's Girl is a great launching point to get these conversations off the ground.
After diving into the conversation (or lesson), Wynter offers some further digging at the end of each lesson, which helps apply what was learned practically in their life.
Even if your tween isn't ready to talk to you yet about some of the things she's feeling, this book is a great way for her to better understand some of those struggles and not feel like she's alone. It may just be the springboard she needs to start talking.
What does your tween girl really need?
Simply to be understood and loved well.