Today's guest post is by Ashley of Tips 4 Mom. How do you find refreshment in motherhood? As the mom of 6 boys ages 9 and under, it comes as no surprise that I am in daily need of it.
- my spirit when I come to the well of God's Word and His Presence.
- my soul when I write or spend time with girlfriends.
- my body when I get a good, solid night's sleep-which is rare :-)
Time spent with Jesus, regular self-care and good boundaries with others is refreshing. These ways help keep us out of the burn-out danger zone. We need to take time daily to refresh ourselves so that our "well" from which our children receive is full and replenished. Without refreshment, the water that flows from us becomes stagnant and trickling.
But there's another surprising way to find refreshment. In fact, I have sometimes blamed this very way as the cause of my burnout rather than as being one way to cure it.
"A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed." (Proverbs 11:25)
This verse speaks a promise. When we refresh others, we ourselves WILL be refreshed.
As moms, our life is service. This life can be tiring. In the midst of all the cleaning, diaper changing, tying of shoes, activities etc., God has promised refreshment. We are laying down our lives daily to serve and refresh others. It's not easy. But the rewards are great!
This promise of refreshment may seem as backwards as "the first shall be last" (Matthew 19:30) and "whoever loses his life for my sake will find it" (Matthew 10:39). God's kingdom goes against the currents of our society. We may not always feel like this principle of refreshment is true. But we need to renew our minds and believe what He says will be accomplished!
3 Surprising Ways to Daily Refresh
1. Serving Our Family
As we serve our families, we can receive refreshment! Do you realize what this means? Housework and homeschooling don't have to be exhausting. God promises as we renew others with our service, we will be renewed ourselves in the process.
When we embrace the wrong perspective towards service in our homes, this promise of refreshment doesn't always play itself out in our lives. Perhaps we view serving as menial or drudgery rather than as a place of refreshment. Our Lord Jesus "did not come to be served but to serve"(Matthew 20:28).
Therefore, as we learn to walk in his footsteps, we will find the fullness of life. It's all in the attitude!
For another great perspective of serving our families, check-out When You Wonder if Mothering Is Enough?
2. Extending Encouragement
Cheering on our husband, children and friends with encouraging words can be like a boomerang in our lives! As we speak life-giving words to others, we will be cheered on ourselves. "Life and death are in the power of the tongue." (Proverbs 18:21)
Plus, encouragement changes the atmosphere of our homes into something positive. We reap what we sow (Galatians 6:7). Sow encouragement and praise and we will reap it!
3. Practicing Hospitality
Because we are daily serving our family, we might be tempted to make that an excuse to not extend "refreshment" to others. Although preparing for guests can be a lot of work, our family always experiences so much joy by blessing others.
In the Bible, we are encouraged to "practice hospitality" (Romans 12:13). This means to make it a habit! Habits sometimes require discipline to form. But it's worth putting hospitality into practice. The fruit is so rewarding!
Despite what we might feel or think, serving is a renewing life-style! Refreshing others may seem like an unexpected way to refresh. It's all in our perspective. Let's learn to approach our daily tasks expecting to be refreshed by Jesus as we serve.
Let's joyfully put this promise into practice today!
Ashley is a mother of 6 and lover of Jesus. She writes to help other mothers thrive at Tips 4 Mom, where she shares what she's learning along the way.
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