I recently wrote a post on setting the atmosphere in our homes. Sometimes this can seem like such a daunting or impossible idea. We just don't even know where to start.
Maybe you're thinking:
My house is so busy, unorganized, and chaotic, it's overwhelming to think about turning it into a haven of peace, nurture, and rest.
But our homes are the main hub of our lives and the lives of our husbands and children. Everyone needs a place to feel like they belong and if we don't give our children that, they will find it someplace else.
Every part of the day has it's own possibilities as well as it's own challenges and the first step to making the most of each part of the day is being prepared and intentional for what is needed.
Today I'd like to address our mornings and why they are the foundation for our entire day. Even if you aren't a morning person, how you approach your mornings will make a huge difference in how the rest of your day flows not just from a productivity standpoint but from a mental and emotional place as well--for you and your family.
In my post, 7 Ways to Conquer Your Morning Routine, I talk about steps to take in order to be productive with your morning.
In this post I want to address how we approach that. Because we can go through our mornings, blast through our to-do list in a rampage with a narrow focus of being productive, and completely forget about the atmosphere we're leaving behind us.
So how can we approach our mornings in a way that doesn't just focus on productivity but also honors and cares for our husband and children?
As a work-at-home mom, my working hours change based on our season. At the beginning of this school year, I decided to move my working hours from the afternoon (before homeschooling) to the morning (before homeschooling).
After several months of this set up, I realized it is not working well and there are several reasons why. But the main reason is that my children need me present in the mornings. Mornings are a crucial time of the day for connecting.
Because of this, I need to make sure I am in a positive state of mind when I descend the stairs from my bedroom. When I come down the stairs grumpy because I have to be up, this attitude rubs off on my children and conflict becomes the norm.
You need to ask yourself what your children need from you in the morning. Does your little one need to snuggle? Does your tween need to talk? Do your children need you to send them off to school with words of encouragement and possibility?
What is it going to take to get you in a place where your attitude is honoring and you're intentional with your mornings? Does it mean getting up a little earlier so you have a few minutes to wake up before the children? Does it mean waking a lot earlier to have time in the Word and a fresh focus for the day? Will that mean you need to get to bed a little earlier?
This is the heart of your mornings -- you.
In order to make your morning atmosphere a warm, welcoming one, you need to make sure you are taking care of you, so you can be the best you in the morning. Get filled with God's Word, think about your morning and how it's likely to go and plan in your head ways you will handle conflict as it arises.
Be intentional about saying "Good morning!" with a smile and offering your child a hug or a snuggle. Even if you don't normally make breakfast because your children are older, simply be there with them sipping your coffee and engaging with them as the day gets started. This is an important part of connecting.
We know that moms often set the tone in the home. Not only is this true on an overall scale, but this starts on a smaller scale. It starts with how we wake up in the morning and how we set those mornings up (or fail to).
We can have all the productivity tools and education in the world, but it won't help us with our attitudes if we are not intentional about making them honoring -- to God and to our families. Often this means we must lay aside our own desires in order to meet the mental and emotional needs of our household.
The one thing that has remained constant throughout the years I have been and grown as a mother is that mornings are prime time for my children. Even in the morning hours there are two parts: waking up and morning routine, and morning lessons.
How the wake up and morning routine goes will determine how well homeschool lessons go. It all pours into the next thing.
Taking a few minutes alone to prepare for your mornings can help set the entire morning atmosphere in your home.
What is one thing you do in the morning that helps set a welcoming atmosphere for your family?
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If you're looking for a practical resource to help you with your mornings, I highly recommend (aff) Make Over Your Mornings by Crystal Paine.
She offers 14 days of encouragement and practical ideas as well as a workbook and sneak peek into her own routine. Click the image. --------->