As a mother, there are a lot of choices I need to make. The role of motherhood requires that I submit to it. It does not come without duty or responsibility and to ignore it is only to fight against the submission required to fulfill that role.
I really think it all begins with attitude. When we embrace the call of motherhood, fulfilling it will not be a battle of the mind. There are a few key things that motherhood requires us to submit.
It's no surprise that motherhood requires time out of us. But it's not just time to care for the physical needs of our children; you know, eating/drinking, bathing, sleep, etc. It requires time invested into nurturing their hearts and souls. They need our time to know our love.
This doesn't mean a mother should never have some time to herself. I think it's vital for the health of the mother that she does set aside time for herself.
But the reality is, motherhood requires copious amounts of time from us. This is something we really should embrace and not fight against.
Motherhood can make emotions rise you never knew existed. Oh yes. And they can betray us because we are raising children here, not immature adults. And I know there is a fine line between the two, but children often times really don't know better.
Our children are constantly in a state of growth and maturity. They are children, and they will do childish things. This should be expected, allowed, and space offered to grow. A child should never be shamed for not knowing better, rather a child should be trained and instructed. It takes time to train and for children to mature.
Anger and frustration will only make things worse.
...for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. James 1:20
In order to mother with purpose and vision, we need to mother with intention. We need to have some direction. The Bible provides all we need to guide our children. In addition, there are very wise teachers who have written out of their own experience, in light of God's word, who can help us with very practical ways to intentionally mother our children. One such author is Sally Clarkson.
We should be mothering proactively, not reactively. We shouldn't wait for problems or struggles to arise before teaching and training our children about them.
Will unexpected things happen? Yes, absolutely! We won't be able to perfectly cover everything. But we can minimize a lot of surprises and equip our children to face temptations armed with Scripture and practical steps of walking away or reaching out.
Will You Embrace the Reality of Motherhood or Resist It?
Motherhood is a journey, for our children's hearts, and for our own. We can either embrace our calling and live it to the fullest; allowing God to shape our hearts to be more like Him through service and sacrifice. Or, we can resist and live in a constant battle of the wills; flesh against spirit.
Have you ever prayed that God would make you more like Him? Isn't motherhood the greatest opportunity for that?! There is no end to the practice of sacrifice, denying the flesh, and patience.
There is no peace and no rest when we do not submit to what God has for us--in this case, motherhood. It's a high calling and the most important mission work we will ever do. Embrace it. Walk in your role as mother. Living fully engaged will give you freedom.