The Days Are Long, But The Years Are Short

The other day I was just pondering my children. I was thinking about how fast the years are going by. While I have a lot of years ahead of me with my children, have I taken care with the years that are behind me? It some ways yes, but in many ways, no. Heart Necklace by lacybekah, on Pix-O-Sphere

I wake up each morning, living each day as it comes. I go about our routines of meals and chores and lessons and sleep. I get up the next day and do it all again, and I realize, I am missing it. In living the robotic life I forget to play and enjoy the lives of these children---I don't invest as much in them as I should because I mistakenly think they will always be there. The long days cloud my mind and I wrongly think I have plenty of time.

When I stop, and I let the house run fast without me, and I, sit there in the viewing of my children, them playing, and smiling, and running, and beckoning me to join them and read them stories, and piece together puzzles, play games. But instead? I jump in with the house running fast because I have to keep up -- I have to keep going because, I reason, I don't have time to live. I have to keep up with those living.

I have been challenged by a few much more wise then me to slow down, live intentionally, and have a plan for my life. I don't want to look back and say, "Man! I wish I would've listened to those people." I'd much rather look back and say, "Wow! I'm so glad I listened to those wise people!"

Even with my blog I don't really have a "plan of action", other than the Homemaker's Challenge each week. (And in case you haven't heard, this week's challenge is along this same line. "Homemakers with a Purpose".)

Everything I do must have a purpose. Even my blogging. What purpose does it serve? My time online must be intentional for it to be fruitful and not rob me of other precious moments.

Joyful mothering requires some action. It requires living by design, not default. It begs the question, "What would God have me do today?" Obviously, He would have me care for my family and home. But the bigger question is, am I meeting the needs of nurture and spiritual growth? That is where peace and joy are found.

I've noticed I keep turning full circle back to the same conclusion. I must live with purpose; not wait to see what the day holds for me, but rather tell my days what they are going to do. Because life truly is a vapor, and God has given us a great gift. Are we using it for His glory? Am I using it for His glory?

Let us begin. I will first complete this weeks homemaker's challenge.

Are you living intentionally--with purpose? Journey with me so we can learn together.

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Tips for Goal Success

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This week I've written on

Why Set Goals? 3 Reasons

3 Steps for Making Goals


Naming 2011

Now I want to give you a few tips for success. These are by no means exhaustive. But they can help in getting you closer to where you want to be.

1. Write it down - everywhere!

Put it on your cell phone banner. In your planner. In your journal. Hang it on the fridge. Tape it on the bathroom mirror. Do whatever you have to do to constantly have that goal staring you in the face so that it can always be in the front of your mind.

My one word for 2011 is joy. Joy will interweave every other goal I make this year, so I am going to put that in many places I visit often. My own blog will be a reminder for me! Underneath joy is my quiet time, which is added into my everyday schedule so it is not forgotten. Yes, it is very useful to schedule in a quiet time. :)

2. Be intentional.

Make steps to reach your goal. Don't just let things happen. No fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants goal reaching. Be intentional about making it happen.

My first goal is to make my quiet time with Jesus my top priority. Without this time, everything else falls apart. It is a must, therefore it is at the top of the list. So I need to take intentional steps to get to bed early, so I can wake up for prayer and not overfill my evenings so I have that time to read the Bible. I have added these into my schedule so they will not be forgotten. This is a practical and tangible goal.

Each month I will also be working on an area of heart change. January will be joy in my speech & tone of voice. In order to remember to speak with joy, I will have to have it posted everywhere and keep it in the forefront of my mind. Meditate on it. Read scriptures on it. Pray on it. Think about it -- a lot. It is my top priority over everything else.

3. Don't give up.

This might be the most difficult tip, but it will sooo be worth it. If you mess up, pick up again and keep going. Don't allow imperfections to stop you. Pray for strength when things get tough. I can almost guarantee that Satan will be working against you as you take on these endeavors. Fight back and don't let him win.

The Bible says, "Let us not grow weary in well-doing, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart." Galatians 6:9

This passage speaks on the fruit of the Spirit. Somewhere in our goals lies a fruit that we are chasing after. Which one is yours? Many times we have to fight for it.

4. Reflect regularly and often.

I highly recommend and encourage you to get a journal and write down these goals. Reflect on them. Write verses next to them for inspiration. Write how it's going; your failures, your victories. Write how God reveals himself through the journey. It doesn't have to be long. But do it regularly and often. It will give you some indications on anything that needs tweaking or prayer. It will also make a keepsake for future generations. :) The days come and the days go...leave a trace.

One last tip:

5. Expect it to be challenging.

All too often I think we have this notion that things will always come easy. We can play it out in our minds, however, we cannot foresee the obstacles that stand in our way or cause delays, detours, or distractions. Push through them. This tip goes along with not giving up, but before you even begin you need to recognize this will likely not be easy. Go in expecting a fight.


Tomorrow I will share my goals for the year 2011. Will you join me?