Becoming a Warrior Mom in a Hostile Culture

We are raising our children in an ever-changing and hostile culture. We need to become warriors!

Raising children in today's hostile culture requires we raise warriors--and that means we need to become warriors!

When I dreamt of being a mother, I never imagined I'd be having the conversations I have with my children today. There was a time early on in my years of mothering I was lead by fear and wanted to keep my children in a bubble, safe from the world and all the influences that were counter to my values and beliefs. I was afraid the world would eat them alive. 

Eventually, there came a point when I knew I had two choices: 

1. Hide my children away from the world in hopes of protecting them

or

2. Raise my children to be warriors for Christ 

See, when the culture began making significant shifts, I knew raising wimpy Christians was not an option. Maybe that sounds harsh, but I don't want my children just to know of Jesus and believe He existed. They need so much more of a foundation than that if they are going to withstand the storms that will inevitably hit them. And they will. And not just as adults, but as kids growing up around other kids who {have and} will challenge their values and beliefs head-on.

I needed to commit to the task of truly pouring into my children to help them understand why they believe what they believe, and encouraging them to ask questions when they didn't understand something. I try hard to be proactive about talking about life so they are somewhat prepared to handle what it throws at them. 

That's when I began praying fiercely and fervently for wisdom. I needed God to guide me through these waters I was not prepared to navigate. And I really believe prayer was such a huge proponent of God giving me courage and direction to do what I needed to do, as a mom who values the same things Jesus values. And that was to step out in faith and raise warriors for Christ.

It reminds me of a scene in Wonder Woman when Diana wanted to train to be a warrior but her mom had forbidden her to learn to fight. Hippolyta was trying to protect her by keeping her close and in the dark about who she really was. But Diana's aunt was wise to convince Hippolyta that training her to fight would be the best way to protect her, the only way to truly protect her.

Now get this: once Hippolyta agreed to allow Diana to be trained, she told Antiope to train her 10 times harder than any Amazon before her.

Moms, this is where we are right now in the culture we are living in and this is what we need to do. We have a real Enemy on the prowl. He wants to destroy families and steal our lives by breaking us down little by little. He feeds on our weaknesses and that of our children's. Kind of like Aries, the god of war. {Who is fictional, yes. But it's a great metaphor}. 

We need to raise and train our children harder and to be stronger in order to face a culture that is counter to what Christ stands for: righteousness.

For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. - Ephesians 6:12

The first thing we must teach our children is love and compassion. 

And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. -1 Corinthians 13:2

As they encounter people who are different from them and have different values, it's important they stand for what is right while still loving people. Otherwise nothing they stand for will matter. Those who are not of the Christian faith will not embrace Christian values, so we can't expect them to. But we can love them right where they are while continuing to live out the life Jesus has called us to.

A MomStrong mom understand that she is a warrior, not just for her kids, but for the generations that follow. -Heidi St. John

Heidi St. John {The Busy Mom} has released an excellent book for moms who want to become "MomStrong"; who want to fight for their families but aren't quite sure where to start.

 

Heidi offers some very practical and encouraging tips to become that mom warrior your children need you to be in the hostile culture they are growing up in.

"And in order to prepare warriors, you have to become a warrior yourself."
~Heidi St. John, Becoming MomStrong

 

As moms, we need to be sure of our calling and stand firm in our role as mothers. We are shaping the next generation and it's not something to take lightly. Not only because of future generations but because our children need to be properly equipped to remain strong in their faith in Jesus as they encounter the world. 

"If we're going to raise a generation of strong children, we must learn to engage our enemy rather than run from him."
~Heidi St. John, Becoming MomStrong

It's time we become Warrior Moms and fight for our children against the darkness in this world. God has given us this responsibility and no one can do it like He has equipped us to. 

I love how Heidi breaks down some of the most important aspects of motherhood and how to meet those challenges head-on. She offers real-life examples from her own experience of how she went through a season of surrender.

She explains throughout her book what being a "MomStrong" mom looks like.  Here are just a few:

  • They embrace the fact that they are loved by God and are precious to Him
  • They have uncommon courage because their courage comes from God Himself
  • They never lose sight of the goal of becoming
  • They don't trust in their own abilities but in a strong, sovereign God

Maybe you're not there yet...and that's okay!! That's exactly what Becoming MomStrong is all about!

For His Glory,

Christin

I was given a free copy of Becoming MomStrong so I could have the privilege of sharing this review and giving away a couple copies. Please see my full disclosure here.

How Can I Find Delight in Motherhood?

Motherhood is hard and requires we recognize our responsibilities and obligations, not only to our children but to God. Yep, we have responsibilities under God. They are prevalent throughout scripture.

Basing our joy on our own performance will leave us shortchanged every single time. Joy doesn't last on the performance of people or the circumstances of our lives. ~Christin Slade

The Delight of Motherhood

But there is a delight in fulfilling that duty. And our ultimate delight in motherhood comes from our delight in the Lord. If you desire to be a delightful mother, you must delight in Him first!

Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4

There is so much joy in motherhood. And honestly, I am writing this after a rather trying day of being a mother. But I'm learning that where we find our joy is the key to making it an ongoing blessing in our lives.

Finding joy in my children's behavior alone is only going to take me on a roller coaster ride...where there will most likely be way more downs than ups.

Our children are going through a growing and maturing process just like we are. They will never be perfect and basing our joy on their outward behavior will only leave us empty and without joy. In addition, what kind of weight do we put on our children to have joy only when they are well-behaved or doing all-the-things-right?

Basing our joy on our own performance will leave us shortchanged every single time. Joy doesn't last on the performance of people or the circumstances of our lives.

More specifically, our delight as mothers should never be found in our understanding of our own perfection.

So where can I find this lasting joy? This joy that doesn't rest on my children's behavior or my performance?

Delight in the Lord

Joy is from the Lord when we have our eyes fixed on Him. Joy is found when we recognize our purpose is from Him and not our own personal endeavors or desires.

He doesn't just give it -- joy is in Him. When we seek Him and understand our great need for Him due to our own sin, we recognize the greatest gift we could ever receive is life with God. We will never find lasting joy if we don't see it in God our Father.

Job raises some great questions,

Will they find delight in the Almighty? Will they call on God at all times? -Job 27:10

Delight in motherhood can come from that deep understanding, embracing, and walking out of the role God has given to us, but only after recognizing our life is in Him. 

I know that my joy can easily be stolen when I depend on it from the wrong places.

I delight in motherhood when I delight in Him, first.

For His Glory,

Christin