Where Your Value Lies

Last week we talked about how God designed you to be you. It's important that we do not define ourselves by things that do not matter. You can read last weeks post for more detail on that.

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Today we're going to dive into where we are drawing our value from. There are a few areas which immediately come to mind for us as women, mothers, and even bloggers.

As women,  we often place our value in how attractive or unattractive we feel about ourselves. If we feel constantly unattractive or believe that we are not beautiful, it can effect the whole of our lives. But we cannot forget what the Bible says about beauty.

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment....instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. 1 Peter 3:3-4

We also place our value in how well kept our house is, how our children behave, or trying to live up to the Proverbs 31 woman. I know I have fallen into this trap. If people come over and my house is less than perfect, I feel devalued. Not by those who enter my home -- but by my own perception of those entering my home! Crazy, isn't it?

One last example that perhaps many can relate to is our number of blog followers. Why do we define our value based on statistics and numbers? This is not where our value lies. Our words do not mean less because 1000 people aren't reading what we're saying. Success is not defined in numbers. Ultimately, it's found in obedience.

If you love me, you will obey what I command. John 14:15

What does He command?

A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. John 13:34

God has laid a vision and dream on each of your hearts and has given you gifts and talents to reach them. Every dream will not look identical nor will the journey be identical.

God has chosen you specifically to be the wife to your husband, be the mother of your children, and be an influence to those in your circle. There is no other you!

We lack confidence and courage because we are placing these things in ourselves rather than in God.

Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God. -2 Corinthians 3:5

Another word for competent is sufficiency. We can do nothing apart from Christ. Our value lies in Him. We will never be fully satisfied unless our security rests in Him.

It's not self-confidence, it's God-confidence. It's not self-worth, it's God-worth. It's not self-image, it's the image of Christ. He places more value on us than we do on ourselves.

If you want to "find yourself", become lost in Him.

The series

{Surprisingly Satisfied}

Equipped With Enough

Finding Contentment in the Now

{To Be} Fully Satisfied

Is There a Balancing Point?

{Purposefully Feminine}

The Gift of Being a Woman

The Woman’s Role of Submission

God Designed You to be You

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The Gift of Being a Woman

In The Resolution for Women, Priscilla touches a bit on biblical womanhood and the post-feminism movement. This section could be a book {or two} in and of itself. Everyone has their own definition of what feminism is, especially the women who are a part of that movement. But I believe there are varying degrees of feminism. From the rights of women, to the dominion of women.

Many people see biblical womanhood as restricting and confined.

And I say, so be it.

Other people's definition of what God has called me, as a woman, to be is inconsequential. It doesn't sway the calling or role I've been given in humanity, or in my family. We have been given a great gift to be a woman. We are able to do what man cannot: carry and birth children. And that's only the beginning.

What more could one want to be set apart? Woman is uniquely designed, but so is man. God has specifically purposed each sex to fulfill a role in creation. Wanting to fulfill the role of a man--isn't that denying femininity, not embracing it? Neither men nor women got to choose their role. It was given to us. What will we do with it?

Shall we cast it off or live it to it's fullest?

I choose to fully embrace the gift of woman as woman. A woman who depends on God and trusts His provision. A woman who loves and supports her husband, because I love him, and love is not self-seeking. A woman who gives her all to her children because I love them and want the absolute best for them. If that's not satisfying to the outsider's looking in, that's OK, because I'm not trying to impress or please them.

Did you know that Satan has a special hatred for woman?

And I will put enmity between [Satan] and the woman... Genesis 3:15

So, it's not an accident when people and principalities come up against women. It's not really the people, it's the principality--the supernatural powers that rise against God.

It's not an accident when we hear lies, even from ourselves, that we are worthless and will never measure up.

That we are less than beautiful and who would want to love us?

The role of woman is so important, Satan does whatever he can to tear her down. The role of woman as woman, not acting as a man.

Woman is beautiful as woman. She is unique and highly valuable as woman. She is needed to be a humble helper for her husband and graceful mother to her children.

Woman is beautifully and fully feminine as fully woman.

In the next couple weeks we'll uncover a little more of the mystery of a woman's soul and her role.

And a quick FYI: being fully feminine does not mean you have to love {or even like} pink and only wear dresses {or skirts}. ;)

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You can read the previous posts in this series here:

Is There a Balancing Point?

{To Be} Fully Satisfied

Finding Contentment in the Now

Equipped With Enough

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Is There a Balancing Point?

As I read the wrap up section for "Surprisingly Satisfied" in The Resolution for Women, I was captured by what Priscilla said here:

By choosing contentment, you're not getting rid of your desires, you're just demanding that they assume an appropriate, humble position in your life, not bossing you around like a tyrannical dictator forcing you to submit to his ever-growing and ever-changing list of demands.

It means you no longer allow your yearnings and aspirations to control you, to rob from you the full use of and gratitude for what you've currently been given, leaving you unable to enjoy this because He hasn't seen fit to give you that. pg. 29

I also want to add: allow yourself into a place where His desires become your desires. Because ultimately that is the goal And if we rest in His desires, contentment will naturally follow. We'll be content because we know we are in a place God wants us and we are resting in Him and submitting to Him.

When we gripe and complain, ultimately, we are telling God we aren't happy with where He has put us, and really, we know better than He does. Yikes! I certainly don't want that. I am not the Potter. I am the clay. He molds me--not the other way around.

At the bottom of that same page, Priscilla says this:

 It's a balance. A holy equilibrium. A genuine gratitude for what the day brings, all the while maintaining a controlled anticipation for what tomorrow may offer.

That's the safe, healthy place where contentment allows you to take root and take up residence. Instead of being manipulated by unrestrained discontent... {emphasis mine}

I disagree with these statements. Let me explain why.

First off, Jesus and His ways are the balance we are looking for; seeking Him first and allowing everything else to fall where it should. We cannot be fully satisfied in Him and have a set of our own desires over here, that we are anticipating.

We are encouraged to be content in all situations and to not worry about tomorrow. Allowing even a controlled sense of "anticipation" or being discontent as long as it's "restrained" is still discontentment. We are to be content in all things. I believe allowing just a door crack is enough for our flesh to stick it's foot in the door of this "unrestrained discontent" so it can slowly widen the gap.

No. We want to keep that door shut and remain fully focused on the now, and not allow any bit of dissatisfaction, whether controlled or otherwise. It's still dissatisfaction.

The balancing point is Jesus and resting in what He has for us--not anticipating the next thing. It's the only way to be fully in the moment; fully where we are now. :)

This section wraps up the first resolution in the book: Surprisingly Satisfied.

You can read about the first parts here:

{To Be} Fully Satisfied

Finding Contentment in the Now

Equipped With Enough


A couple of announcements I want to bring to your attention.

Joyful Mothering will be closed for Christmas. Any posts that go up from now on are pre-scheduled {hence, already written}. You may see me laying low. I'm going to be working on some writing, a new project, and re-designing the blog. Woot! So, if you see my design disappear, do not be alarmed. It's quite normal! I'll be revealing the new design January 2nd, when I return to blogging.


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Equipped With Enough

Several days throughout the week, I feel like I'm "running on fumes". Like I don't have much to give and typically I moan about it. "I'm so tired. I don't feel like doing anything", or "My patience is running out. I can't take anymore. I have nothing left". And more often than not, I give in to these moanings. Not often enough do I approach God and draw from His strength. Nor do I push through and keep going, knowing God will give me just what I need to get through.

Too often I forget He has promised to give me what I need. I know, that sounds silly. But the truth is...though I know God is near and I talk to Him constantly throughout the day, my meanderings with Him are not what they should be. Most of it, is me complaining. Yes, I know it's OK to be real with God, but this type of thing can become a disease if it's not turned around. I don't want my relationship with God to consist of me constantly griping about what I can't do and what I don't like--about me, or anybody else.

When we step out, and give from the little we have, God meets us there and multiplies it. This isn't just in money. It's in anything we choose to give--our time, effort, skills. Just give Him whatever you have, and let Him do the rest. Even if it's only the equivalent of a couple of pennies.

But on those occasions when you do feel genuinely led by God to give, you needn't be worried about what appears to be a dwindling amount of personal resources to suit the task.

The contented woman, when required to give of her time, her love, her resources...herself...is secure in the knowledge that she possesses enough to do it. --The Resolution for Women, pg. 25

Something that I believe really helps feed this is walking in contentment and gratitude. To really thank God for what we have to give and be content in the smallest of things. To really push our resources--our energy, our time, our stuff, our money--push them to the max. Make the most use of them.

He has equipped us with enough. We may not be swimming in it, and we're not lacking in anything we need. We have just enough.

Let's challenge ourselves, just for today, to squeeze out everything we can from the resources we have. Let's step out with the little we [think we] have, and watch God multiply it.

He never disappoints.

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