There is somewhat of an art to setting the atmosphere of your home. I've found that it always starts with a firm foundation and consistent time with the Lord before anything else. Establishing that very important time to strengthen your relationship with Jesus and nurture your spiritual life, it's much more natural for your home to reflect an atmosphere of Christ.
Once that foundation is grounded, it's easier to see where we can make improvements in the following places in order to create a peaceful, nurturing, and loving home atmosphere.
It all begins with attitude. There are endless ways to rob us of a good attitude. If we live life constantly frustrated by our to do list or our children's disobedience, we will live miserably and take everyone who lives in our home with us.
Our attitude is such an important aroma for our homes. If our attitude stinks, we can be sure our children will pick up on it and follow suit.
When you wake up in the morning, do you wake up ready to take on the day and looking for possibilities, or are you dreading it, knowing that you'll be greeted by fighting children and a messy kitchen?
So how? How can we have a good attitude when everything in us feels otherwise? It's going to require some re-training of our minds and hearts. Oftentimes these things don't come easily and they take work!
First and foremost, fill your mind with the Word. As I first mentioned, spending consistent time with the Lord drastically changes our attitudes because we lay down our frustrations and worries and put on His peace and Trust and walk in that. Of course, it is so much more than that, but that's a very basic understanding for the purposes of this topic.
Next to attitude, our home atmosphere relies on being attentive to it and those in it.
A home left to itself cannot thrive. The bathroom or kitchen won't clean themselves and being attentive to caring for those helps keep peace in the home. Plus, your home won't smell bad. ;)
Thus, children left to themselves cannot thrive and they shame their mother. Our children need us to be present and available and attentive to them.
That doesn't mean they don't have some degree of independence, but everyone needs something from someone and as children, their needs for their mother are great. In order to have that peaceful home atmosphere, not only do the household chores need to be done consistently, our children need consistent nurture.
Failing to meet these needs can result in anger, insecurity, fighting amongst siblings (more than usual), loneliness and more.
As an extra layer of attentiveness, our children and our homes need our affection.
First, let's talk about having affection toward our homes. Now, this may sound a little strange but hear (or read) me out. We can have clean homes and they still be quite cold. How can we cozy up and make our homes really our own?
This doesn't require much (or any) money (hello, garage sales!). If you have an artist in the house, you can frame their artwork and grace your walls in the most personal way.
Use candles or fresh cut flowers. Put your special touches on your home to make it yours. Everyday pictures of the kids are the best!
Find out what your husband likes, too. If he's anything like mine, he may not care and give you [almost] full reign to do what you'd like.
Our children really need our affection. This may look different for different children. But hugs and snuggles can never be replaced by anyone in the world. There is nothing more personal for a child then for a mom to offer her affection to them. And this will improve their attitude which improves the atmosphere for everyone.
Lately I've made it a point to seek my children out everyday for at least one hug. At least one. Because I don't want life to get too busy for affection.
What do you do to set your home atmosphere?
Recommended Resource: (aff)