Children Need Encouragment

As a mother, my default is to chastise. As an adult, I see the world differently than my children do. I have many more life experiences than my children do. Rather than lead them by encouraging them and walking with them, I am quick to tell them how they are doing it all wrong. I know, great mothering tactics, right?

Sunday night I was at my church's monthly worship night called "Encounter". My 8-year old was dancing around the sanctuary in worship {she loves ballet, and is pretty good at it}. At one point, she knelt before the alter with her hands raised to heaven, and I began weeping; sobbing, even. Because even through all my mothering failures, God is still faithful.

It was at this time that God spoke to me about changing my mothering "tactics" by becoming an encourager. Here is the irony of it my friends: my spiritual gift is encouragement. So, tell me why my own children have become an exception to having this gift offered to them? Why are they deprived of such a grace-gift?

Not only am I to encourage them, but I am not to wait for the opportunity to come knocking--I need to go seeking those opportunities out. Create them myself. Who can thrive on constant correction? With little words of affirmation?

But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin's deceitfulness. -Hebrews 3:13

The days are evil, friends. We need to make the most of every opportunity. Children will struggle with sin just as much [maybe more?] than adults. They need our encouragement. They need to know who's "got their back". They need to know we still love them, even when they fail.

When we focus on implementing a positive behavior, it automatically pushes the negative behavior out. So as I encourage my children, I will also encourage them to encourage others. This will help push out negative talk and negative attitudes.

It's the building up of the body of Christ; and it begins in our own homes. :)

Question: How can you encourage your children?

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