The Beginning of Joyful Mothering
You see, when I started Joyful Mothering back in 2010, I was just about to have my fifth child in eight years. I had been a pregnant or nursing mama for many months straight and it drained me during that season of my life. I was hormonal and exhausted all.the.time.
Leaving the house was a huge chore for me, so I left as little as possible unless my husband accompanied me. I struggled through some postpartum depression but I didn't want to talk to anyone about it.
I changed diapers for 12 straight years; having 3 in diapers at once at some point. I was so busy and needed a safe outlet to be in community without actually needing to leave the house.
I had everything I ever wanted but I struggled to find joy. Thus, Joyful Mothering was birthed through that search. I needed a place to have accountability and a place to grow and release my feelings and thoughts.
As I began to come out of being a mother who birthed and breastfed babies, I began to see the sun again. It wasn't that I was unhappy, it's that I was hormonal. Lack of sleep and having your hormones completely out of balance can make a huge difference in one's quality of life. I never took medications for it, though my doctor offered. I don't believe it was so bad it warranted medication. I just struggled to function past survival mode.
When my youngest turned 2, we began the adoption process of our two daughters. The stress and uncertainty involved in 18 months out of the 24 months it took to complete this process were almost just as bad as being hormonal. It was tough.
Our girls have now been home 4 months and they are adjusting very well.
I have entered a new season of motherhood and life. I am no longer so focused on doing everything perfectly (a symptom of PPD); rather I am excited to get out in the world and teach my children about life and possibilities.
I've also learned that it's OK to have more to me than being a mother. I am many things and I am not selfish for pursuing those things. I have also learned that moms can turn their children into idols unknowingly. While our children certainly require plenty of love and nurture, they also need space to grow independently when the time is right. And I cannot only look at life through the lens of motherhood alone. I have a husband and I have other parts of me in need of growth; not just who I am as a mother.
And some of this stuff I really needed to know during that season of my life.
So, what does all this have to do with the changes of Joyful Mothering?
Growing Out of, And Into
Well, I kind of feel like I've just grown out of this label; this brand. I don't want to be seen as someone who has to constantly produce attributes having to do with joy, or even motherhood all the time. And I don't like labels. Because there is more to me than both those things. And I am not a brand. I am a person. (Thank you Sophie Hudson).
So where does that leave me? Where does that leave this space?
As the new year approaches, I am going to be morphing this space into who I really am: Me.
And who am I?
I am a daughter of the most high God, so intimately He knows me by name, knows the hairs on my head, and knows the deepest parts of me.
I am wife to an amazing man, who has supported me in just being me and as a result has helped me grow into a better me; one who wants to reflect Christ.
I am mother to seven incredible children. A gift I don't deserve and a role that I will never perfect. But everyday as I seek Him and hand their lives over to Him, He is shaping me and helping me shape them.
I am a writer. I am so much a writer that I'd rather text or email than talk on the phone. And writing is something I would like to pursue further, in more depth. I want to grow as a writer as I grow as a mother and in other areas of my life.
Joyful Mothering is getting a name change to: Christin Slade.
What the Future Holds
Because that's who I am and there is only one of me and the only thing I need to grow into is who God molds me to be. I will no longer be narrowly focused on just learning to be a joyful mother.
So, what will I write about? The topics I write about won't change, but their focus will. And my goal is still to serve you. I will simply serve you as fully me. Not just as a mother, but the whole of me, as a writer, a wife, and one who desperately longs for Christ.
I will continue to write about:
- spiritual growth
But I will also being adding more:
- work at home mom
The latter list won't fill my calendar, but they will be consistent additions.
Everything will be moved on my end, and really, you don't have to do a thing. You won't need to resubscribe or anything. Come January 1st, you will automatically land in my new space, ChristinSlade.com (yep, it's already live and kicking). Right now it is solely my writing blog, but I am merging everything into one and giving it a face lift.
There is only one little thing you will need to do if you're on Facebook, and that's simply to "Like" the new page there. Easy peasy, you can click below.
I have other fun things to share with you that will be unfolding in the new year, but I think this is enough news for one day. ;)
Tomorrow I will be back with the Moms in the Word study on Psalm 37. I hope you'll join me! Get your posts ready to link up. :)