How To Be a Lighthouse to Grace for Your Children

In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven -Matthew 5:16

This also means:

In the same way, let your light shine before {your children}, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven -Matthew 5:16

This simply narrows and emphasizes our scope as a mother. When we read this verse as it applies to living for Christ in front of our children, it helps us to apply it better. That doesn't mean we throw out the original verse. It simply helps us put our focus at home, with our children, while we are home, with our children.

So how do we put feet to this verse? How do we let our light shine before our children? 


It all starts with grace. For best results, add grace.

I used to be confused about what grace really is. In fact, I was afraid of it for a long time. God has brought me a long way as He spoke to me and changed my heart on grace.

Grace is not an excuse to sin.

What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound? By no means! How can we who died to sin still live in it? -Romans 6:1-2

I was afraid that if I received grace, it meant I was allowing myself to sin. So, to be safe, I wouldn't allow myself to receive grace. And I remained bound by my own sin. I never felt free from it. It was a heavy weight. And this same weight was put on my children, unknowingly.

You can't give grace when you don't know how to receive it. 

God chipped away at this lie around my heart, and as it broke free, I stepped into His light.

So what is our job as moms? To hold the hands of our children and bring them into the Light with us. But we can't do it our way--we must do it His. His way is grace.

It's graceful. Gracious. Grace-filled.

It's undeserving, but still freely given.



We can be a lighthouse to grace for our children by offering them grace.

Grace is not a replacement for correction or discipline. It is the manner in which you deliver these necessities to your children.

Are you accusing? Belittling? Exaggerating? Impatient?

All these lack grace.

Grace forgives. Grace walks alongside. Grace empowers and encourages.

God is our beacon of grace and we need to allow His light to shine through us, to our children, so they will praise our Father in heaven--because of grace.

Lighthouses represent hope to sailors who have lost their way. They are that steady stream of truth that glows through the darkness and marks the safest way through the night.

We are a lighthouse permanently established to show {our children} the way home. -Grace Based Parenting, pg. 41 & 42

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