Battling Defeat and How to Overcome

The days leading up to August 1st, the day I would begin the official discipleship, I was battling. I heard all kinds of lies swirling in my head such as

  • "Who are you trying to fool?"
  • "You can't change."
  • "You can't do this."
  • "You still have so much to do, you'll never get it all done."
  • "You should not be using your blog in this manner."

It was never ending and I was growing weary from it--and I hadn't even begun yet!

When God laid it on my heart the plans He had for this blog, I began to get plagued with the lies that I was "misusing my blog and my intentions weren't authentic" -- that "I was only looking for 'content' to fill my blog."  But this isn't so. {If it were, I wouldn't have told you}. ;)

You see, when I shared with you the vision God gave me for discipling my children, I knew you would hold me accountable. When I promised to come back with a full account of our time, I knew I had to deliver. Does it really matter how the accountability comes, so long as your heart is to follow hard after God? As long as your motives are truly for what God desires?

Whenever God asks you to do something significant, there is a great chance there will be a battle waiting for you, trying to get you to quit before you begin. It will give you all kinds of reasons why you can't or shouldn't do what God has specifically called and equipped you to do.

We even justify some of the lies in our own mind because it's so easy to do.

It is so hard to deny our flesh and do what God has called us to do. It's hard when we try to do these things in our own strength. We must rely on Him. Those first few steps of walking out in faith might be hard, but when we allow Him to, He will guide us. That's the key to overcoming defeat: taking the first step in faith.

Remember learning about the armor of God? This is not just some cute little thing we learn about in Sunday school. It is a powerful tool God has given us to fight the everyday battles of spiritual warfare--and they really are a daily occurrence.

I think walking in faith is the first thing we need to embrace and learn.

Hebrews 11:6 sums it up

And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.

So when you enter into this battle, most often beginning in your mind and thought life, you need to believe that God is holding you up and carrying the victory. God wants you to succeed at what He's called you to do, so He's not going to leave you stranded. Did you catch that? He will never leave you. But it's gonna take some work! It's gonna take some fighting to get you there. But isn't it worth it?

In this case, it's discipling our children. What battles are we facing when we set out to do this?

  • thoughts of inadequacy
  • all sorts of distractions--TV, Internet, Video games, even house work
  • lack of knowledge, good resources, instruction or how-to help, support
  • lack of inspiration, encouragement, motivation, perseverance, and the list goes on.

The fact is, we lack certain things and it cripples us. We lack that confidence and assurance to step into the unknown and we, at times, lack perseverance to push through the tough moments to keep going.

James 1:5-8 says

If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.  But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord.  Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.

Did you catch that vital piece of armor needed in order to be given wisdom? "But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt."


Discipling, teaching, and training our children is going to be messy compared with the image we have in our head. This is a reality we need to embrace in order to move forward.

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