A Mother's Influence On Her Children

It's amusing to me how often we can get frustrated with our children for picking up on our own negative behavior. Too often I see my faults in my eldest and in an attempt to purge that behavior, I become harsh simply because I don't want my child struggling with the same stuff I did do.

The Hands of Mother

The influence we have on our children is great. In Educating the WholeHearted Child, Clay and Sally say this about a mother's influence:

No one can replace the influence you alone can have on your children. However, your influence won't come from having read all the right books on motherhood, or listened to the latest parenting "experts". It will come because of your faithfulness--because you faithfully follow God's design for motherhood.

A few weeks ago I wrote about how a mother is faithful. This is no walk in the park. It takes real dedication and real sacrifice. A sacrifice requires that it costs you something, otherwise it's not a sacrifice.

Everything we do and how we do it can be picked up by our children because being at home with them makes us their greatest influence. This is the opportunity of a lifetime! Think about it.

We have the gift of showing our children how to live righteous lives and how to serve God and one another. But we must live it, not merely read about it.

When you faithfully follow God's design for motherhood, you will serve without fail--God first and everything else follows. No, you won't be perfect at it {psssst...I'm not}, but this leaves room for God's grace to move and for our children to see what it is He's done for us.

On the other hand, if we are short with our children and show them that they are a burden to us rather than a gift, they will live as such. They will not "bother" you for the things that matter most simply because you didn't invite them in when their needs were trite [in our eyes].

That's the power of influence. Our behavior and actions, whether positive or negative, have an impact on our children.

Being that faithful mother, though, is not as idealistic as it sounds---it is, in reality, a daily and hourly challenge. -Clay & Sally Clarkson

Can I get an "Amen"? Truer words were never spoken {or maybe they were and I just haven't heard them yet}. Regardless, anything worth doing, and doing well, is going to take a lot of work. But nothing is impossible!! I think often we tend to take on this task on our own, forgetting the strength of God is within our grasp. We need only ask Him.

How many of us wake up each & every morning and intentionally pray for the strength to mother our children? How long do we wait before we cry out for help? Typically when we're already frustrated, right? Why are we waiting so long?

If you want to be a good influence on your children, you must allow God to be a good influence on you. The only way this is possible, friend, is if you meet with Him regularly--in prayer, in Scripture, in songs of praise. Stay connected with Him. This will allow the power of His Spirit to work through you and help you.


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