Let's face the truth: mothering and keeping house is hard work--and it's supposed to be that way. There really is no easy way around it that will result in positive, worthy results. It's crucial we wake up and face that reality. And the reality is, our role requires daily, constant, dedicated work. The demands put on us reflect that every single day. But for us to thrive in this beautiful role of motherhood, we need to face that reality head on.
Sure, there are ways to simplify life and our work, but the role is still quite demanding and tough. Half-hearted devotion will not do.
Doing housework is simple compared with mothering. I don't mean to say it's easy to keep up with, but it is easy to do. It's black and white: when something is dirty, you clean it. Mothering isn't as simple. Sometimes we don't know the best course of action when handling a conflict that arises. Sometimes, we need to deal with our own hearts as we help shape the heart of our children.
It requires going through the fire sometimes.
I'm not interested in microwave motherhood.
You know, a fast, easy "fix" that's essentially void of any nutrition or taste.
Yet it's such an easy trap to fall into, isn't it?
We cannot take the easy way out of meeting the needs of our children and expect a good outcome.
When our children come to us for attention, are we giving them what they need or are we pointing them to the television, devices, or other people? Are we pushing off that valuable nurture our children desire with us to some "fast and easy fix, void of nutrition"? Are we attempting to replace ourselves, our time, with a poor substitute?
Mothering is nitty-gritty work. It is not hollow or shallow in the least.
If we want to offer up real nurture that is filled with compassion, patience, and attentiveness, we're going to have to mother from scratch. Sometimes that means trial and error rather than choosing the quick fix.
It is more than meeting the physical needs of eating, sleeping, and hygiene. It requires us to look below the surface and dive deep into the emotional, relational, and spiritual needs of our children, not only collectively, but individually.
Each child is unique with their needs and should be nurtured accordingly.
Are we ready to embrace the most life-changing role entrusted to us? This is but a season and our efforts will bring glory to God as we step into what He has for us.
Don't let this discourage you -- instead, let it challenge you. Let's check our priorities and start small. It's in the little things that we fill our children's "love tanks" as we pour in a little here, a little there.
How about a bedtime story tonight?
Breakfast together in the morning?
An afternoon walk together?
Motherhood requires of us the most valued thing we possess: our time.